You must begin this journey by looking at where you currently are in your life (point A), the place you want to end up (point B), and lastly, the things you'll need to put in place in your life to reach this point B.
You should be arriving at work every day looking forward to the day ahead, rather than looking at the clock waiting for it to hit 5 o'clock. It can be very easy to live life on autopilot, working the same job and having the same day-to-day habits, but you must begin to question where you want to be in life, otherwise you will remain stationary in life. Once you begin to understand where your point B is, you'll begin your journey and you'll be able to figure what habits in your life you need to create and which ones you must eliminate, if you want to reach this point B.
Knowing Where You Want To Be
There is a long journey to point B, full of obstacles, failure, but, eventually success - if you work hard enough towards it. You need to take an in-depth look into your passions, what motivates you, what your true desires are, what you want out of life and why you want this. Looking back at your life at 80 years old, will you be satisfied with the way you've lived your life? Certain ideas detailing the right way to live our lives are taught to us and ingrained in our mind from society, family and friends when, in reality, there is no handbook on life to follow. As a result of these ideas, we can forget to pursue our real desires, causing us to disconnect from them. By clearing our mind of all the societal expectations of us, and placing a larger emphasis on pursuing our inner desires, we will be able to put together the puzzle pieces of our life, and uncover where we want to be. Point B needs to be a place that correlates with your life values, your monetary needs and your goals in life. To find this point B, look at what passions you could turn into a career. Look at the careers those around you have and whether they would be suited to you. Look at your key talents and abilities that are unique to you, that you could convert into a career. Then you just need to figure out the steps you’ll need to take to turn these passions into a career.
The Journey to Point B
Once you understand where you want to go, you can then begin your journey there. To be able to fully succeed you will need an emotional drive, fueled by your passion and enthusiasm for reaching point B. You may need to pour money into building yourself up in whichever aspects of your life you need to improve on. This could involve investing in a career coach who can guide you and advise you. Think about who you know of that is already there, at Point B. See whether they will mentor you, or allow you to shadow them. You could be surprised at what they will say. This will allow you to understand what they have done and are currently doing to be where they are. “Find someone today who can mentor, advise or coach you about what’s possible, and help you see what’s holding you back from identifying the power you have to make a difference, and the vast number of options that are truly available to you.” You will be able to get a better picture of what you can do to get your foot in the door. You’ll also understand the true motivations, and aspirations required to get there.
Before deciding to fully revamp your life, look at what’s working well in your life, and in your job. Eliminate anything that isn’t working well, that you feel is holding you back from happiness, which could be anything from a bad boss to a role you no longer want to work in. You need to resolve these issues first, because it may turn out that you can find happiness through making some minor changes and eliminating the negatives holding you back. You need to do this to ensure you have full control over your current situation before you can consider starting a new chapter in your life. After tackling all of these issues, you may no longer feel the need for a significant change. If you do choose to start something new, to fully succeed will require a lot of hard work, and failure, meaning you’ll have to fully commit until you reach success. It will be a long slog, so keep motivated by the idea of the end result, and it will be worth it when you get there.
Create Achievable Goals
You need to create specific, achievable goals, which align with your point B, and then set exact deadlines for these goals. If you are too broad with these goals, e.g. “I want to earn a million dollars,” then you aren’t likely to get there. You need to have a deadline to achieve these goals, understand the process to reach these goals, and the reasons you have for reaching them. This reasoning should be based around your core beliefs, which are the key motivators you’ll have for reaching these goals.
A Growth Mindset
You should never be comparing yourself to others as motivation to move forward. You should only be comparing your current situation to your previous self to see what progress you’ve made in your life, and use that as further motivation to continue to develop your body and mind. Putting a little bit more effort into all the things you do in your life is the difference between the people who are the best at what they work towards in life and those who are mediocre. You should not be satisfied with only getting close to your goals, because you will begin to head down a slippery slope where your expectations of yourself begin to lower.
Don’t expect to reach your goals without making mistakes, and experiencing obstacles and hiccups along the way. You need to understand the key obstacles that are currently holding you back from pursuing your journey towards point B. Once you understand what these obstacles are, you can begin to plan how you will overcome them. The one thing that everyone has control of is, is their time and what they do with it. Every person in the world is limited to 24 hours a day, so a lack of time is no excuse for not reaching your goals.
During your journey you’ll experience plenty of obstacles, so you shouldn’t be surprised and demotivated by these obstacles because you should expect them to happen. You have to choose whether you go down with the obstacles or whether you will tackle them head-on. This is the key difference between those who control their lives and those who are controlled. If you are truly in control of your life you will proactively use the obstacles as opportunities for learning and growth, by always asking yourself what you can learn from the obstacles.
The Power of the Why
You need to think why, rather than how. Although the process to reach your point B is very important, without a strong enough reason behind reaching this (your why), you aren’t likely to be 100% committed to the journey, so aren’t likely to get your optimum results. If you have a “why” beyond yourself; for your family, your community, etc. then you’ll have a greater chance of accomplishment. So ensure your “why,” is a reason worth working towards.
“Find someone today who can mentor, advise or coach you about what’s possible, and help you see what’s holding you back from identifying the power you have to make a difference, and the vast number of options that are truly available to you.”